So, Gary and I have been in our new home in Puerto Morelos, Mexico for just over a week now. We arrived last Wednesday evening, and since then, we’ve gotten to work settling in to our new home & figuring everything out.
There have been a few times over the past week that have been really uncomfortable, and that’s created a lot of anxiety. And I don’t know that I really considered how much all of this change was going to impact me – everything that would be changing when we set out to move to Mexico.
We’re now living in a new culture, where everything is different: language, money/exchange rate, measuring system (temperature, distance and weight), and climate.
This is taking a lot of thought processing, and I feel like I’m constantly translating my new experience to what I already know: 200 pesos = ~ $10; 8 kilograms = ~16 lbs; 200 degrees Celsius = ~400 degrees Farenheight; fuerte = strong.
For the first few days, it seemed like everything was kind of a disaster. I realize now that I find safety in organization; so once I was able to get the stuff that we brought with us organized and put away (and still there are things that we are trying to find a proper place for), everything seemed to run a bit smoother.
We’ve also started establishing a morning routine of going to the local gym, and then taking the dogs for a walk on the beach before we start working – again to create a bit of normalcy in our day.Since this was something that we did before, it makes the day feel a little bit more familiar.
I am a coach who helps her clients change their health behaviors. I know that change is uncomfortable. But I also know that the more that we sit with being uncomfortable, and the more we practice, the easier our new habits and environment become.
I don’t know why I didn’t expect the discomfort in making this move – but I didn’t.
And so, the first few days of the move were really scary for me, and I felt a lot of anxiety. Until I realized that it is GOING to get easier. I just have to go with it.
What I’m talking about here is something called the Valley of Despair. It happens whenever we choose to change something in our lives; it doesn’t matter if its something related to your health, like changing your eating habits and starting to exercise, or something unrelated to your health, like learning a new skill, for example, playing the guitar or learning Spanish.
There is a point at which we feel like things aren’t getting easier.
But any change that we make DOES get easier as we keep doing it, and practicing. The key is to not give up.
We always think change is going to be easier than it actually is. But if you can get through the grind – the part where it just seems harder than it should be, then you can have lasting success in your goals.